I’ve said before that I feel like I live two lives. There is often this duality when juggling a medical condition. Its the struggle between “I’m not going to let anything stop me!” and, “I need to respect my limits and take care of myself.”
Part of me wants to do all the things. Anything I can physically do, I need to do it while I still can. My fear is that I can never stop, or I will begin to deteriorate. There is some truth to that. I can’t let cancer or chronic illness be my excuse. I have to push against it all the time.
Sometimes I get carried away. I over extend myself, ignore my limitations, and run myself straight into the ground. It happens to everyone at some point.
What happens then is what I call a “forced rest day”. A forced rest day is when your body just says “Nope, not today.” You can try to push through it, but the push back only gets stronger and stronger, and without adrenal glands to kick in and make the hormones I need to keep going, I will eventually be forced to rest.
A forced rest day means prioritising your tasks of the day to just the essentials. If it can be cancelled, cancel it. If it can wait, then let it wait. If its something I can’t cancel, I can increase my steroid dosage and drag myself out of bed, but that comes with consequences too. The more you keep pushing, the greater the back lash will be. Even with ever increasing medication, I will still slowly burn out like a dead battery. The rest day will not be ignored!
The hardest thing about forced rest days, is that they cannot be planned. They don’t fit conveniently into your schedule- ever. They just pop up unannounced and they don’t care about your plans. They don’t care if it’s a holiday or if you signed up for this or that. They don’t care how long ago you made a particular appointment or who might need your help. Your body just says, “I’m done.”
What can I do about forced rest days?
All bodies require us to care for them. Bodies with health conditions need a bit of extra care. Sometimes in our efforts to be “normal” we forget this. On a forced rest day, your focus should be caring for yourself, recovering so you can get back to doing life. Eat healthy food, drink lots of water, take your vitamins. Wear comfy clothes, and REST!
I have a secret for you… If you can incorporate self-care into your “GO!GO!GO!” life, then you will have fewer forced rest days! The thing is, its easier said than done. It takes responsibility to say, “Woah, my schedule is overloaded here…I need to cancel something and make time for rest.” It seems selfish, lazy even, but far from it! You’re intentionally making time for “rest”. It doesn’t have to be actually laying down or sleeping. It can be spending an evening at home having a nice meal, rather than scarfing down a snack in between homework and a meeting. It can be catching up on a book and enjoying the peace and quiet, before heading out to a big event later. Its all about balance!
When we achieve that balance and tame our busy lives by adding these strategic rests to our schedule, the end result is less “burn out” and fewer “forced rest days”.
Take it easy,